Episode 32: "Non-consenual immorality" and why Mormons don't understand consent

This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss Elder Quinton L. Cook’s recent General Conference address, Prepare to Meet God, wherein this so-called apostle of the Lord introduced the concept of “nonconsensual immorality” and conflated it with good old fashioned immorality. Body autonomy is the theme of the day as Cari and Kelsae rip that miserable special witness of Christ a new one. CONTENT WARNING: Cari shares a specific event of sexual assault from 30:50-31:50. 

Opening thought by Buddy Wakefield 

Closing thought by Miss Vanjie 

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Episode 31: Self-compassion

This week, Kelsae and Cari talk about self-compassion. Kelsae gives us some of the key points of Dr. Kristen Neff’s book, Self-compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, and both Sisters discuss and feel a little grief for their poor Brendas (their critical self-talk). Come, listen to an apostate’s voice expound the importance of just being fetching kind with ourselves.

Opening thought by Kristen Neff, Ph.D.

Closing thought by Buddy Wakefield 

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We're taking the week off

Hi friends, this isn’t a real episode. Cari and Kelsae are taking the week off for self-care reasons, but will return next week with pleeeeenty of swears. Don’t fret. In the meantime, go check out some of our previous episodes and hang out with us, but like, back in time. It’s what all the cool kids are doing.

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Episode 30: Substance abuse 101

This week, Cari and Kelsae discuss substance abuse, addiction, and guidelines for healthy use of substances. Cari used to work in substance abuse, so she shares her knowledge, and Cari and Kelsae each discuss their experiences with substances after leaving Mormonism. There are so many misconceptions about addiction in society and especially among Mormons. You won’t become an alcoholic if you taste your first Mike’s Hard Lemonade. We promise.

Important terms from the episode:

  • Addiction: The inability to stop using a substance despite extreme negative consequences (requires rewarding and reinforcing stimuli).
  • Substance abuse: Using substances to cope with emotions or in large amounts.
  • Physical dependence: The state of requiring a substance to function “normally” without experiencing symptoms of withdrawal.
  • Tolerance: Requiring more of a substance to achieve the same or similar results.
  • Rewarding stimuli: Something that’s inherently rewarding and makes your brain feel good (ex: a substance fills your brain with dopamine).
  • Reinforcing stimuli: When the behaviors you engage with while using a substance are reinforced because the substance impacts your brain in a way that your brain believes you need to continue those behaviors. 

Opening thought by Andrea Gibson 

Closing thought by Kristen Neff, Ph.D.*

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Episode 29: April 2018 General Conference

This week, Cari and Kelsae talk about the most recent General Conference. It was, in a word, unimpressive, despite what a lot of active Mormons are saying. There are two new apostles, seven new temples, and two program changes to discuss. Buckle in.

Opening thought by Rachel Wiley

Closing thought by Kaveh Akbar

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